Work with Becky

You are not alone in estrangement and the emotional pain it creates! I'll help you rediscover hope, healing and peace!

For the most part, you do well to manage estrangement. It is what it is. But you still struggle to understand why someone you have loved and cared for could abandon a relationship. You try to make sense out of it and can’t. Triggers appear out of nowhere and you feel profound shame and think you’re the only one going through this. And sometimes you feel as if others are judging and blaming you for being a terrible person. It’s often called a silent epidemic for a reason. You don’t want to admit that you feel embarrassed and ostracized. Would it surprise you to know that most every person with estrangement feels the same as you? And that over 70 million people deal with estrangement!

I know the emotional pain of estrangement well. When those you love reject you, it’s easy to wander down the slippery slope of despair, depression and dependency upon numbing agents like alcohol or other substances.

And that’s why I’ve created a plan to help you fill that hole in your heart. You will learn:

How to break free from the guilt, shame and blame.
Communication strategies for healthy relationships.
How to identify and respond to triggers in a calm manner.
Mindshift perspectives that will help you see who you are in God’s eyes.
Explore the forgiveness process – what it means and what it doesn’t.
How to be at peace when someone who wronged you doesn’t seek, accept or desire forgiveness.
Boundary practices to help you when you decide to reconnect and restore those broken relationships.
How to let go and live in peace when relationships do not reconcile.
And, re-discover or possibly discover for the first time a God that loves and pursues a relationship with you.

The biblical strategies I use will help shift your mindset from “what’s wrong with me” to “what’s right with me.” And that will set you on a path to take control of the emotions and pain in a manner that is healthy for your physical, mental and spiritual health. You’ll discover inner peace that will enable you to live in peace even amid the estrangement. And you’ll find that the new you will be open and equipped for reconciliation and restoration with loved ones

Here are the 4 phases of work we will do together to help you let go of bitterness and painful memories, learn the process of forgiveness and discover your true identity:

Restore Confidence as you Embrace your True Identity.

Let’s face it, estrangement shreds your self-esteem. You feel exposed, judged and ostracized. I’ll help you shift mental blocks that hold you back and keep you stuck in a pity party you don’t want to attend.

Confront Guilt & Shame with Authority

Guilt and shame are two sides of a coin and they work together to keep you locked in a mental prison. You feel guilty about choices, words spoken or decisions made. And shame as you wonder if you are a terrible person. You wonder if even God thinks you are unworthy and unlovable. You aren’t.

We’ll look closely at the difference between guilt and shame and explore how you perceive them.
You’ll acquire the confidence and authority to effectively silence these two accusers.
You’ll be able to look at the estrangement with fresh new eyes, examine truths, own your part and end the cycle that continues to lead to self-pity.

Learn To Forgive – The Fundamental Key to Your Peace.

Forgiveness is not one and done. It’s a process and you’ll learn how to forgive yourself and extend that to those who have hurt you whether you reconcile. And experience the profound peace that follows once you establish healthy boundaries.

Together, we’ll explore the hard process of forgiveness and what giving or withholding it means to your ultimate peace of mind.
You’ll discover that forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean reconciliation or restoration and you’ll develop a plan that you desire.
You’ll be able to explore growth opportunities & break free from replaying the hurt repeatedly.

Reconciliation and Restoration.

Together we'll explore the path to reconciling your estranged relationship.
You'll develop boundaries to safeguard your relationships and develop healthy ones going forward.
Not every estranged relationship will reconcile. You'll learn how to live peacefully & without bitterness when reconciliation doesn't occur.

God’s peace is vastly different than what the world offers. It is not the absence of conflict as evidenced in many lives in the Bible. This peace is an anchor in your soul that will carry you through estranged relationships.

The next step is to reach out for a free consultation call. Complete the short questionnaire below. I will be in touch promptly.

During the call, we will explore:

Where you are in your estrangement and reconciliation
Assessment of family dynamics
Your goal and expectations of a coach
I’ll share my role as a coach and how I work with you
Together, we’ll assess if we are a good fit and move to the next step of creating a plan specific to your needs.

My coaching style is biblically based.

I offer this discussion to those who are open to talking about their relationship (or lack of) with God, but it is strictly your decision. I do not force my spiritual beliefs on others. It may surprise you that for many years, I didn’t want to step foot in Church. Sometimes it’s the Christians in our life that hurt us the most. My healing came from rediscovering a relationship with Jesus and learning who he said I was. Owning my part and learning to respond in a biblical way fueled the path to reconciliation. It has led to reconciled and restored relationships – with him and my family. And it has brought the lasting peace I so desired.

So, what’s next? How can you work with me to find the success you seek in dealing with the emotional pain of estrangement?

Let’s get acquainted as you tell me a little about you. Simply fill out the short questionnaire below. It will come to my inbox, and you’ll get an email confirmation from me shortly after. I’ll then be in touch to discuss the next steps.

Name

Email

Phone Number

Time Zone

Country

How did you find me?

With whom are you estranged? (son, daughter, etc)

How long have you been estranged?

What has been done to reconcile and what were the results?

What is your biggest challenge/fear/pain right now?

What do you want to be different 6 months to a year from now?

If you hire a coach, what are your expectations for you and from the coach?

Anything else you would like for me to know?

Becky Kolb
Estrangement and Relationship Coach

I knew I wanted to reconcile the estranged relationship. We both did. But so much had been said between us and time had passed us by. Working with Becky allowed me to understand that this was not the same relationship. We were starting over, and we were able to define what we wanted this new relationship to look like. It has been positive and rewarding.

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