Meet Becky Kolb

You feel the sting of rejection and wonder why someone you love and care for could turn their back on the relationship. Estrangement is more common than you may think. And it affects virtually every relationship (parent, child, sibling, grandkids, co-workers). But you feel as though it's only you. Estrangement lies to you like that. You want the relationship to heal, but wonder if there is any hope of reconciliation.

And you are stuck in shame, thinking that you are unique to this problem as most of your friends seem to have loving and respectful relationships. You feel judged by others who may silently be thinking you’ve done something terribly wrong. In divorces, family (or ex-family) may side against you and contribute to the ongoing estrangement. If your family doesn’t love you, then you feel God probably doesn’t either. That, too is a big fat lie!

The truth is God does love you and pursues a relationship with you even amid estrangement. Especially amid estrangement.

My friend, you are in the right place. I understand your pain and I’ve got you. I’ve felt all those same things and more and I can tell you that you can move on amid estrangement. You’re tired of feeling stuck and riding the emotional roller coaster but don’t want to let go. Letting go doesn’t mean abandoning the relationship forever.

You can navigate the painful estrangement to find peace with yourself and with God. Discover how to shift your mindset to the truth about your value and identity. Overcome guilt and shame. And when reconciliation time comes, you’ll need strategies to successfully reunite while keeping your peace and boundaries. That’s what I offer to you in my podcasts, blog and 1:1 coaching.

I sensed God calling me to help others who feel the guilt, shame and hopelessness that I did in my estranged relationships. I thought God couldn’t possibly love or accept me and what I discovered is that he was waiting for me to turn around to his open arms. What an incredible peace.

I want to hear your story and help you shift your mindset. And to dispel some of the lies I believed about estrangement and bet you do too. If you are a partner to someone grieving estrangement with their kids, I have strategies to help you too!

Are you ready to find that lasting peace? To discover or rediscover a relationship with God? And to renew hope and work on strategies to eventually navigate restoration and reconciliation? You don’t have to worry about shame or guilt or judgment with me. Some of my relationships are restored and some aren’t. My friend, I have lived it and understand you. Together we can break through!

I help women who have painful estranged relationships who want...

freedom from guilt and shame.
to rediscover a healthy relationship with God.
to learn healthy communication habits.
to discover the process of forgiving.
to move on amid estrangement.
to set boundaries and non-negotiables for lasting relationships.
to learn when to reach out and when to pull back.
best practices to approach reconciliation.
tips to help their partner navigate estranged relationships, especially those who are estranged from their kids post-divorce.

My passion came to fruition when I experienced estrangement with my kids following a difficult divorce and a year later the death of my ex-husband. He was killed in a car accident. I was blamed. I thought everyone including God hated me.

My friend, I’ve experienced firsthand the emotional pain and understand how you feel and the difficulties you face. I learned many hard lessons and my passion is to help people like you navigate this silent epidemic that many refuse to even discuss because of the shame they feel.

Are you ready to have a discussion about how I can help you rebuild your self-esteem, experience freedom from guilt and shame, learn the process of forgiveness, discover how to approach reconciliation and establish healthy boundaries and non-negotiables? Tell me a little about you in the short questionnaire.

Not quite ready to do that, but want to stay in touch? Check out my blog where you’ll find food for your soul from devotionals I write from my quiet time with God.

And my podcast where you’ll discover new and fresh insights to help you navigate these painful estranged relationships. Things like how to navigate the holidays and what happens when you forgive but they don’t.

And if you just have questions, contact me here and I’ll be happy to help.

Life coaching is not therapy. It’s focused on today and what you desire for the future. We work together for ways to help you move forward for I believe the answers lie within you. A coach will help you see what you can’t and helps you find those answers. I found that talking with close friends provided support, but they were too emotionally involved and hesitated to tell me what I needed to hear for fear of risking the friendship. Friends are not usually skilled to challenge where needed and help you move to your goal. I will offer insight and different perspectives for you to think about. I may ask hard questions and I’ll offer feedback, but you will decide what will work best for you.

I am passionate about helping women move from where they feel stuck to where they want to be. And as a result, you will find clarity and direction to move forward into your dreams and goals personally and professionally.

Becky lives in the Phoenix Arizona area. She and her husband, John, enjoy traveling internationally and entertaining. Together, they have 5 adult children and 14 grandchildren.