Becky Kolb, Estrangement and Relationship Coach

Meet Becky Kolb

You feel the sting of rejection and wonder why someone you love and care for could turn their back on the relationship. Estrangement is more common than you may think. And it affects virtually every relationship (parent, child, sibling, grandkids, co-workers). But you feel as though it's only you. Estrangement lies to you like that. You want the relationship to heal, but wonder if there is any hope of reconciliation.

Estrangement breaks you. You feel alone, isolated and judged. Shame, anger and bitterness surround you like a home that lies in ruins. You want to rebuild, but you don’t know how. 

The truth is God loves and pursues a relationship with you even amid estrangement. Especially amid estrangement. He is the Master Builder that will help you.

My friend, you are in the right place. I understand your pain and I’ve got you. I’ve felt all those same things and I can tell you that you can move on and find peace amid estrangement. 

Nehemiah in the Bible discovered that his homeland was in a ruinous heap. The walls surrounding Jerusalem were broken down and the gates destroyed by fire. That’s often what estrangement feels like. Nehemiah set out to rebuild what had been ravished and destroyed. Much like God wants to do with those who are estranged with broken hearts.

I sensed God saying that he wanted me to help people rebuild their lives. I had this mental picture that I returned to my family home and discovered wood rotting and spotty paint. Shingles on the roof were missing. The front door was broken and windows askew. Inside my family was surviving but their hearts were in poverty, broken by the destruction that had come up on them.

God seemed to be saying to me: like Nehemiah, don’t you want to help them? To help, rebuild and restore their home (heart). Give them comfort, hope and peace to live in safety and enjoy a peaceful life? That’s the passion God gave me and why I created this coaching ministry – to help women like you that want to rebuild and find peace but are stuck and unable to move forward.

I want to hear your story and help you shift your mindset. And to dispel some of the lies I believed about estrangement and bet you do too. If you are a partner to someone grieving estrangement with their kids, I have strategies to help you too! 

I offer 1:1 coaching, speaking to women’s groups, a podcast and a blog as part of my ministry to help women through this difficult time.

Are you ready to find that lasting peace? To rediscover and rebuild a relationship with God? And to renew hope and work on strategies to eventually navigate restoration and reconciliation? You don’t have to worry about shame or guilt or judgment with me. Some of my relationships are restored and some aren’t. My friend, I have lived it and understand you. Together we can break through!

I help women who have painful estranged relationships who want...

  • freedom from guilt and shame.
  • to rediscover/rebuild a healthy relationship with God.
  • to learn healthy communication habits.
  • to discover the process of forgiving. 
  • to move on amid estrangement.
  • to set boundaries and non-negotiables for lasting relationships.
  • to learn when to reach out and when to pull back.
  • best practices to approach reconciliation.
  • tips to help their partner navigate estranged relationships, especially those who are estranged from their kids post-divorce.

My passion came to fruition when I experienced estrangement with my kids following a difficult divorce and a year later the death of my ex-husband. He was killed in a car accident. I was blamed. I thought everyone including God hated me. 

My friend, I’ve experienced firsthand the emotional pain  and understand how you feel and the difficulties you face. I learned many hard lessons and my passion is to help people like you navigate this silent epidemic that many refuse to even discuss because of the shame they feel. And God sent people to help me rebuild my heart and find the peace I sought.

Are you ready to have a discussion about how I can help you rebuild your life, experience freedom from guilt and shame, learn the process of forgiveness, discover how to approach reconciliation and establish healthy boundaries and non-negotiables? Tell me a little about you in the short questionnaire.

Not quite ready to do that, but want to stay in touch?  Check out my blog where you’ll find food for your soul from devotionals I write from my quiet time with God. 

And my podcast where you’ll discover new and fresh insights to help you navigate these painful estranged relationships. Things like how to navigate the holidays and what happens when you forgive but they don’t.

And if you just have questions, contact me here and I’ll be happy to help.

Life coaching is not therapy. It’s focused on today and what you desire for the future. We work together for ways to help you move forward for I believe the answers lie within you. A coach will help you see what you can’t and helps you find those answers. I found that talking with close friends provided support, but they were too emotionally involved and hesitated to tell me what I needed to hear for fear of risking the friendship. Friends are not usually skilled to challenge where needed and help you move to your goal. I will offer insight and different perspectives for you to think about. I may ask hard questions and I’ll offer feedback, but you will decide what will work best for you.

I am passionate about helping women move from where they feel stuck to where they want to be. And as a result, you will find clarity and direction to move forward into your dreams and goals personally and professionally.

Becky lives in the Phoenix Arizona area. She and her husband, John, enjoy traveling internationally and entertaining. Together, they have 5 adult children and 14 grandchildren.

Becky and John Kolb