Hi, I'm Becky Kolb Certified Life Coach
My estrangement story centers around decisions I made that led to years of isolation from family. My spiritual life suffered greatly. Reconnection and reconciliation with God was a first step and eventually led to reconciliation with my family. Read more in the link below.
How to Pursue Peace Amid Estrangement
Estrangement disrupts your life in many ways. Holidays are not the same without your loved one. Nothing is the same. Grandchildren and great-grandkids are born and you don’t even know them. Months turn into years and you feel yourself becoming bitter and resentful. You can stop those unwanted feelings. Your bitterness can become a fresh spring of joy.
The feelings of unworthiness, guilt and shame hung around my neck like a heavy weight. Rejected by those I loved, I never thought I would be whole again. My relationship with God was struggling. The pain of estranged relationships weighs you down. Acceptance, forgiveness, love and peace seemed a thing of the past. I can help you find forgiveness and silence that inner critic.
Not ready to explore coaching? Start with this. Download that free guide – Truths every woman needs to hear when estrangement shatters her heart!
Here’s how my biblical approach to coaching can help you:
- Stop wrestling with negative self-worth and discover your true identity apart from mom or grandma.
- Discover what God says about estrangement and find healthy ways to address son or daughter-in-law relationships when you feel they encourage the estrangement.
- Shift your mindset so that you are not stuck in the negative cycle that defeats your peace.
- Learn to navigate healthy family dynamics when other relationships are affected by the estrangement.
- Develop an internal response to minimize stress when you hear gossip and false accusations.
- Learn to trust God again and find joy in the relationship – even amid the pain.
- Manage triggers when they come because they will come.
My personal experiences, the methods I discovered to combat the pain and the freedom to live again along with my professional certification and training as a life coach are geared to help you walk through your estrangement. Find peace even when reconciliation hasn’t happened and discover biblical truths that bring hope on the hardest days. I overcame guilt, shame and unworthiness and discovered peace. Are you ready to do that too? Let’s have a free initial consulation and see if coaching makes sense for you.
Estrangement Changes You – Let’s Make it a Positive Change.
I discovered my purpose and calling on Christmas Eve 2017 when I sensed God calling me to help women who are struggling with their own guilt, shame and family estrangement.
I struggled with self-worth as I believed what others said about me. Guilt and shame were constant companions. Anger, bitterness and resentment followed and soon I cycled between feeling betrayed and being a terrible person – neither of which were conducive for a healthy relationship with anyone, especially God.
That’s when I decided I needed to know who I was. And it’s where I rediscovered a relationship with God and reclaimed my true identity. You aren’t who others say you are. I can help you shake that shattered self-esteem.
My life verse “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” God restored my relationship to him and my family and it is my passion to help you find that healing and wholeness in your own estranged relationships.
Do all relationships heal and reconcile? No. Estrangement may last for a period or for a lifetime. The one person you have control over is you. God wants your heart – broken as it is. You can find peace even if the relationship never restores. The first step to begin working through this pain is to download the 4 Steps to Lasting Peace.
It will help you explore peace even when reconciliation hasn’t occurred. Discover what forgiveness can do for you to heal your emotional pain. Know what to do when guilt and grief feel overwhelming and find biblical truths that bring hope on the hardest days.
"The intense pain I felt when my daughter-in-law restricted access to my grandkids was overwhelming. Your coaching and insights helped me shift my resentment to healthy thoughts and actions and as a result, I have discovered peace." Amy K
What’s Next?
1. SUBSCRIBE TO ESTRANGEMENT PODCAST on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
Listen on your favorite platform and receive 10 to 20 minutes of valuable insights on topics like letting go, forgiveness, how to discover peace, what to do when you forgive and they don’t. New podcasts dropped frequently.
2. READ MY BLOG
You’ll find faith based devotions from my time with God where I share insights for personal growth to help you navigate estrangement.
4. EXPLORE IF COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU
Let’s have a conversation. It’s free, insightful and a safe place to explore if 1:1 coaching is right for you.
Life coaching is not therapy or crisis counseling. We’ll talk about what feels heavy to you today and where you feel stuck. As your coach I will help you see what you can’t and help you find solutions to bring you peace. I found that talking with close friends provided support, but they were too emotionally involved and hesitated to tell me what I needed to hear for fear of risking the friendship. Friends are not usually skilled to challenge where needed and help you move to your goal. I will offer insight and different perspectives for you to think about. I may ask hard questions and I’ll offer feedback, but you will decide what will work best for you. And in the event we discover therapy is what you need, I will tell you and can recommend someone for you to consider.
Becky lives in the North Texas area. She and her husband, John, enjoy golf, travel and entertaining. Becky has 2 adult kids and 3 step-sons. Together they have 14 grandkids.
