Hi, I'm Becky Kolb Certified Family Estrangement Coach for Women

Hi, I’m Becky

Family estrangement has a way of following you into places you never expected.

It can be there when you wake up in the morning. At holidays when someone’s chair is empty. When a friend casually asks about your family. When you see other families together and wonder why yours couldn’t have been different.

And sometimes it’s there on the good days – when you’re laughing or enjoying yourself and suddenly a trigger reminds you of the person who is no longer part of your life.

I understand that kind of loss.

I also understand how easy it is to spend months – or years – trying to figure out what you could say or do that might finally make things right.

There’s a Reason This Work is Personal to Me

I didn’t choose family estrangement coaching because I found it to be an interesting subject. Estrangement touched my own life. 

I experienced estrangement with an adult child, estrangement from my mother, father and siblings and I know the grief and emotional exhaustion you feel.

I’ve wrestled with the same questions women bring to me:

What could I have done differently?

Should I continue reaching out?

How do I keep cope with family estrangement without putting my entire life on hold?

How do I navigate holidays and family gatherings?

And one of the biggest:

How do I find peace when I can’t control the outcome?

Those experiences changed me and gave me a deep desire to walk alongside other women who find themselves living a story they never wanted or expected.

I Believe There is Life Beyond Family Estrangement

For a long time, estrangement can feel like it defines who you are. But you are more than someone’s mother or mother-in-law.

More than someone’s daughter.

More than someone’s sister.

And certainly more than someone’s decision not to have a relationship with you.

You are still you. 

There are people who love you. Relationships worth nurturing, things that bring joy and make you laugh, places you’ve yet to visit and things you haven’t tried. A life that’s still very much yours to live.

I believe you can grieve what you’ve lost while also being grateful for what remains and build a meaningful life even amid estrangement.

You can hope for reconciliation from your estranged son, daughter or loved one without making your happiness depend upon it.

And you can love someone who is absent without allowing their absence to define who you are.

Faith is Part of Who I Am

I’m a Christian and my faith has been an important source of my strength, hope and perspective in my own estrangement journey.

It shapes how I see people, relationships, forgiveness, grace and second chances.

But I’ve also learned that complicated family relationships rarely have simple answers.

• “Just forgive.”
• “Keep praying.”
• “Be the bigger person.”

Those words may be well intended, but when you’re living through estrangement, they can sometimes leave you feeling even more guilty and alone.

I believe there’s room for faith and difficult questions.

Room for forgiveness and boundaries.

Room for hope and acceptance.

And room to trust God while admitting that something still hurts.

Some of the women I work with want faith to be part of our conversations and some don’t.

Either way – you are welcome here.

A Little About Me

Long before I became a certified life coach, helping people move forward was woven throughout my career.

I’ve had the privilege of owning two successful businesses. The first was a commercial cleaning franchise where I helped people step into business ownership and supported them in business development.

Later, I spent 17 years in real estate as founder and team leader of my own real estate team. Real estate may seem a long way from coaching, but buying and selling homes often happen during some of life’s biggest transitions. I found the part I enjoyed most was helping people work through decisions, uncertainty and change.

Eventually, I realized that coaching wasn’t simply something I did as part of my work. It was the work I felt called to do.

I retired from real estate to pursue my passion for coaching women navigating family estrangement.

I’m a Certified Life Coach through Coach Training Alliance and have continued my education specifically in estranged family relationships, including completing Level 1 with Dr. Becca Bland. My faith background includes serving as a discussion leader with Bible Study Fellowship, and throughout my career I’ve been fortunate to serve in a number of volunteer leadership roles.

But there’s plenty of life outside of work, too.

My husband and I enjoy college sports, golf and traveling together. I love to cook and entertain, and some of my favorite times are simply spent around a table with people I care about.

Maybe that’s part of why this work means so much to me.

There’s More to Your Story

Estrangement may be part of your life. 

It doesn’t have to become your identity.

You are still a woman with relationships to nurture, people to love, things to learn, places to go, laughter to experience and purpose to discover.

And you don’t have to wait for someone else to come back into your life before you begin living again.

Your estranged relationship may remain unresolved.

Your life doesn’t have to remain unresolved with it.

If you’re trying to figure out how to hold onto hope while also getting your life back, I’d be honored to walk beside you for part of that journey. My work is not therapy. It is a grounded coaching relationship for women who are ready to move beyond the survival mode of family estrangement and begin living meaningful and purposeful lives again.

Learn how we can work together.